Be You!

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SPEAKER_02 0:16

Good morning. Good morning. This is Brad. I'm with my wife Tiffany. We are the authors of the Hustle and Flow podcast. Been enjoying just spending time with you. Such good uh content. We've been talking about, man, we had some great feedback on a couple of that we just put out, uh, A Fair Proof in Your Marriage. Got great uh feedback on it. Uh and and that's one of those things that marriage is important to us, and that's why we're here this morning, just talking about it. It's a beautiful day. Good morning, Tiffany.

SPEAKER_01 0:45

Good morning.

SPEAKER_02 0:46

What's happening in your world?

SPEAKER_01 0:48

Nothing much is happening in my world. My my days have gotten a little looser. I've been able to spend some time catching up on things that needed to be done. We're gonna get started on outside. I don't know if you knew that or not, but now you do. Surprise. So we've got a lot of work we need to do outside. It seems like we don't do a lot during the winter now. It all catches up to us. And it is a beautiful day outside. But you're gonna spend your time inside because it's a tattoo appointment day for you. It seems like that's every other day, but I guess it's only once once a month.

SPEAKER_02 1:22

It's only once a month. Only once a month. Yeah. But you gotta schedule those things. If you don't schedule them, it is uh my tattoo artist and and uh several of uh good tattoo artists are six months to a year out. And when you get that open date, you go ahead and schedule three or four or five at a time because uh you don't get them very often. They don't have a lot of cancellations and uh I I won't I want my tattoo work to look good. I don't want it to look uh hokey. So uh again, yeah, I'm going to get that done. Um I'm getting lightning, white lightning put in my arm. So uh I don't know. I thought about doing some glow in the dark. What do you think? Would it?

SPEAKER_01 2:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 2:03

I don't know if it would or not, but uh it may keep you awake at night.

SPEAKER_01 2:06

Uh that would be the least of what keeps me awake at night. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 2:11

Yeah, I am going to do that. And you know, it's it's funny. I turned fifty-two uh a couple of weeks ago.

SPEAKER_01 2:18

And getting tattoos at fifty-two strange, especially anybody that knew you uh uh fifteen, twenty years ago. It's it's still strange. And it's still strange for our kids and people that you know did uh know you fifteen, twenty years ago.

SPEAKER_02 2:37

But uh you know, well it it is strange and and so we're gonna talk about today why that may be strange. Uh people who knew me fifteen years at 42, people maybe who knew me at 42 or knew me at at 35. They're they would be uh shocked if they haven't seen me in a while to have a full arm sleeve at 52 years old. But we're gonna talk today because today's subject is about being you. Being yourself, being who you really are, uh being who you were created to be, whatever you want to call it, uh being what what did we say last night, being authentic, being a true version of yourself. Yeah. And uh that's what we're gonna talk about. So Tiffany, let's hop in. Give me give me your first thought right off the bat.

SPEAKER_01 3:25

Well, you know, for me this has been a you know, I know I know where you're at now uh about being you, and you'll talk some about that. But for me, this was a serious struggle most of my life until probably my late 30s, and I feel like I wasted a lot of time not knowing how to be me and not accepting me for who I was because of you know what I thought I needed to be. And so I learned that you're going to fail miserably when you try to play the role of someone else. And what I mean by that is when you're trying to play the role of someone else, meaning who your husband wants you to be, who your parents want you to be, who your church members want you to be, who your friends want you to be, who just your community wants you to be, you're gonna fail at it because it's not who you were created to be, which means you're just all the time trying to create something that wasn't authentic, and that's that's hard. That's that's a hard life. And that's you know, that's where I found myself, especially in my twenties. So, you know, I got married young and so all of a sudden I'm thrust into from a from only knowing dysfunction, I'm thrust into a a functional family when I married you, which is so strange being around a functional family. And then also now, I mean I'm having kids young, so I've got to raise a functional family because I knew I wanted to raise a functional family. And then I'm thrust into the church world because that was a big part of your life. You know, you're a pastor's kid, you're called into ministry early. Now I've got to also be, you know, raised. I mean, I've I've got to play the role of a Christian when I wasn't a Christian. I wasn't saved, but I had to act saved. I didn't even really know what it meant, but I had to act saved because that was the expectation of be, you know, looking like a good, proper Christian wife and mother. And, you know, it I didn't even really know what that meant, but I just knew I was supposed to be it.

SPEAKER_02 5:38

Right.

SPEAKER_01 5:38

Yeah, obviously. And I wanted to be it. Um so what I did was try to mirror um I I feel like I'm saying that really, country. But I w you know, I so I I star I found myself trying to mirror what that was supposed to look like because I didn't really know I I knew who I was, and it wasn't that I was necessarily a bad person, but I knew I didn't know how to be what everybody expected me to be. So I was trying to mirror what that was supposed to look like. And um it it was hard. It was really, really hard, especially, you know, you know what really all of it was hard, but especially trying to be in church and be in um in ministry was really hard because there was such huge expectations put on me, even when we were young, because we were in full-time ministry in our 20s, and there was huge expectations put on me. And um I guess because everybody just naturally assumed that like you, I had raised up, you know, that I was in the womb in church and in all the Sunday school classes and all the Bible drills and all those things, and so there were huge expectations put on me, and I felt like I had to rise up to them and just mask who I, you know, hey, I'm a baby Christian because I did it, you know, eventually get saved in my um in my early 20s, but I had to just mask who I really was because I couldn't say, hey, y'all need to slow your roll of your expectations of me. I don't even know, like truthfully, how many animals were on that arc. I've seen the pictures and they're all cute and I love them. And I decorated one of my kids' nurseries in it, but y'all I don't even really know that story like y'all do. So like slow your role of telling me what all I need to do on Sunday and all the requirements of me, and just like let me be me and learn about God in my way and at my pace and like try to figure this whole thing out. So instead of that though, I felt this accelerated, I gotta keep up and be who everybody wants me to be situation.

SPEAKER_02 7:41

Keeping up with the Joneses in the spiritual aspect sometimes. And yeah, I mean it's I I get that because I think for so long you do fail at trying to play a role you're not meant for. And uh I saw the other day um Seinfeld is one of my favorite uh TV series. Yeah, I know it is. Yeah, it's fantastic. It's it is a comedy for the intelligence. I agree, disagree. It's a smart, smart TV show. And uh you you really have to appreciate it. But what was funny is uh on the flip side of this, you know, there's Jerry, there's Kramer, there's Elaine, and there's George, and you see those people play those roles and it's so successful. But I saw the other day and I chuckled to myself, Rosie O'Donnell was almost Elaine on Seinfeld. Yeah, that'd be crazy. Because it don't look like she was meant for that role. Or our our other favorite thing that we watch is Friends. We watch Friends all the time. Well, Courtney Cox was originally going to be cast as Rachel, and Rachel was going to be cast as Monica. But they decided the last minute to switch those roles and and the rest is history. But playing a role that you weren't meant for. And and you got caught up in that. Playing a role that you necessarily I don't know that you weren't meant for those roles. Maybe you were, maybe you weren't, but I think the expectation of this is who you should be, um, it it you know, it was hard to get caught up in that.

SPEAKER_01 9:23

Well, yeah, and even even with that though, personality-wise, you know, I have been told my whole life that I'm different, that I'm unique, hey, I've never met anybody like you. Um you know, you're not you're not normal. I've heard all those things. Sometimes they're a compliment, but I'm pretty sure a lot of times it's you know, some of the time, not a lot, some of the time it wasn't maybe meant as a compliment. Right. Um, and so and two, because my person and so you don't hear like that's cool, you're unique. You hear, okay, you've got to what whatever it is that's making you stand out, you need to pull that back. You need to um figure out how to be normal, to not be unique, to not stand out, to not like don't stay under the radar. Right. Like, yeah, just just m mirror what normal it looks like then if you're not normal. And you know, part of part of why I've gotten that my whole life is because, you know, uh the people say, you know, she'll she'll tell you what she's thinking. Well, because of just because of so many things in my life, you know, I like to now at 50, I say, okay, I embrace that because to me, telling you what I'm thinking, as long as I'm not rude and I'm not hurtful or I'm not mean, I'm authentic.

SPEAKER_02 10:50

Right.

SPEAKER_01 10:50

You know, in our church staff meeting Sunday afternoon, I said something and everybody laughed and went, Oh, she's gonna tell you what she's thinking. But what I said was very authentic, and I think that it was uh one of those things like I'm the person sometimes that'll, what is it, um everybody's thinking it, but I said it. And so we were we were needing to give feedback about something and and I said it, but I also feel like it's something that and and it it was a springboard for us to talk about things that needed to be said. And so I feel like sometimes um we feel like we can't be authentic and say what we're saying or tell people what we're thinking because again, we've we've gotta we've gotta hide hide that. And you know, everybody doesn't need to know and everybody doesn't always need to know everything I'm thinking. If people think that I say everything that I'm thinking, they are dead wrong.

SPEAKER_02 11:42

Yeah. Yeah, that you you you pull back often. I do. You do. But you said often you have been said, I've said this to you before, and a lot of times it's it's in jest and and sometimes it's not. Sometimes it it I've said, hey, you're a little weird. And you know. But Dixie's I didn't even say that.

SPEAKER_01 12:01

Yeah, you said you say that I'm weird and quirky. I don't even know what that means. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 12:05

And but Dixie's that way, and and we've been hanging out with our granddaughter uh we hung out with her Monday. She's that way too. We went outside and we were kicking the ball, and all of a sudden she said, I need to go under the shade. I said, What? She said, It's hot, I need to go into the shade. And she's like two years and maybe three months. Like she's just, and I'm thinking, uh in what world does a two-year-old need to get under the shade? But she needed so so but I have said, uh, you know, you're not normal. And I don't mean anything bad by that. Like, I absolutely uh I I embrace the fact, maybe not so much when we were younger, because I had to grow up, uh, but I embrace the fact that you're not normal. Uh I love the fact that you stand out. I love the fact that you lead. I love the fact that you will say what needs to be said with love, with tact, with kindness. And I I love that fact about you. And you know, there's a lot of men who are intimidated by that stuff. They don't like that stuff. They want a they want a nice, quiet little wife, cute wife, and and I like Well when they were handing them out, you didn't get that one.

SPEAKER_01 13:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 13:12

Well, God gave me a loud wife and no lunge muscles. So those are two things that happened whenever God handed out stuff, which is good though. But but you go back to people tell you you're not normal. We were talking about this earlier, and and we live in the South. Hey, uh I'm not sure where you live, but we appreciate wherever you're listening from. We live in the dirty south. And what is normal in the dirty south? Well, normal in the dirty south is you have 2.5 kids, mom and daddy both work most of the time. Sometimes mom stays home, uh, but you have a house, you usually have uh some type of SUV or a kid carrier with with uh a van or something like that, and and you have a car, uh somebody plays ball, somebody may travel travel ball, uh most time they go to church. Um and that looks normal. That's what normal is in the South for most people in the buckle of the Bible Belt. And uh they look a certain way, they they dress a certain way, things are a certain way. But anything outside of that, people think, well man, that's just not normal. And you know, so what it does is if you are are designed differently, and I believe that God designs each of us differently. Yeah, I believe that's a good idea. We are designed differently. If you fall into the trap of playing a role like that, and you're not designed by God to play that role or be in that role, you're miserable.

SPEAKER_01 14:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 14:46

You you you are miserable. And you really can't be who God wanted you to be. You can't be who you want to be. And you're never gonna be effective if you fall into that trap of I everybody tells me I'm not normal, so let me just be normal.

unknown 15:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 15:03

And I'm gonna venture that a lot of people are unhappy if they feel the pressure of of being something that they think everybody wants them to be instead of being who they are. Because I can tell you now, I embrace who I am and I have never in the last, especially 10 years, um, I've never felt more free and more happy with who I am. Because I, you know, people say sometimes they're intimidated by me because of what, you know, because of my my confidence or whatever. And it's just because when I walk in a room like I am, I am who I am. And it's and it's absolutely okay if I am not your cup of tea. And I get that because I'm uh a a a shot of espresso in a probably a tea drinking room sometimes. But that's okay because I'm still happy. I left I'm gonna leave that room the way I entered it, still confident and happy in who I who I was instead of feeling exhausted because I had to be who everybody needed me to be in the room.

SPEAKER_02 16:05

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01 16:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 16:06

And that's that's really good because I I do I think for so many years I was unhappy. Um because again, I was raised in a traditional household. I was raised in a normal household. And, you know, I enjoy aspects of that, but then there were other things that I really had in my heart that I wanted to do or I wanted to be or I wanted to see, and I never embraced those things until one day I just I don't even remember. I don't th there's no like I can't point to January the 6th of 2010. I there there was just one day I woke up and I thought, you know what? I don't like this crap. And I am tired of being um what everybody expects me to be. I'm tired of uh conforming to ideals and and things that uh people think and maybe uh labels and those type of things. So I just woke up one day and I said, I'm just gonna be me. I'm going to decide who I am, what I am, and just like you, when I walk into a room, I'm I'm going to be me. You know? And like me or not, I'm not trying to be a a butthole. That's just who I am, you know. And I do think, I I really believe, that I'm the same person here on this podcast that you would find me at Walmart. Uh or you would find me on a race course, or you would find me at church. Um I'm not I'm not soft and easy and uh I I'm just me. And I you know, I don't know if that is I d I don't know if that is years of maybe things that I've went through that that formed who that is, or if that's that's who I always was but never embraced it.

SPEAKER_01 17:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 17:53

So uh I think that that families sometimes can label you or they can they can mold you.

SPEAKER_01 18:01

Yeah, you know, when you just said that, you know, I thought how w because everybody's different. I didn't know who I was because I didn't know how who I was supposed to be, because I didn't know how to be normal like everybody, but then you were talk you were probably raised in a in a situation like you're talking about about the normal family. This is what it's given to you kind of the standard of this is what you're supposed to talk like and look like and and be like and turn out and do for a career and all those things. So you know, we're we're I'm sure talking to so many different people right now, and you know, you could some people can identify with me, can get it, and some can identify with you. But either way, it it all comes back to the same thing of what you're talking about, how you had to find your identity and embrace who you are. Right.

SPEAKER_02 18:51

And I and I'm still, and that's I think that's it. I am still learning who I am at 52 years old. I am still trying to embrace parts of my life that I'm thinking is that me or is that what I want to be? And and I'm telling you, there's there's struggles because growing up, and listen, my mom and dad are fantastic. I love them, I see them, I I respect them. But growing up, very conservative, right? Uh, very uh my dad took care of us, he worked hard until he was unable to with his sickness, and then my mom worked hard and and we had family time, we had family dinners, we traveled and did ball games together, we were very close, we went to church. Growing up in that atmosphere still imposes sometimes my thoughts of who I really want to be. Yeah. And and I have to even still fight that sometimes because there's nothing wrong with that for them. Right. For me, I I had to change who I was. One of the things, and this goes even into like uh like work. Uh my mom and dad, I think I've said this before, they were both blue-collar workers. And so uh for me, I had to embrace uh working for myself. Yeah. Which was a big a big thing. So I I think that that families really play a part in that. Don't you?

SPEAKER_01 20:17

Yeah, I mean and it did for you. Yeah, definitely. Um, and even and I'm sure that goes in with even talking about, you know, your your tattoos. I don't have tattoos like you have, which is so funny because if anybody would have known both of us 20 years ago, they w if they had money to bet and you know, they would have bet that you would have looked like Post Malone. They would have, yes, that I would have um instead of teardrops on my face, I would have, I don't know, chocolate chip cookies. Can you turn them the other way? Yeah. Um so that they'd be chocolate chips, yeah, um, instead of teardrops. But it's it's just really it's really funny when you you know, because you just can't ever judge because I can't but I can't judge who you, you know, who I think you should be. Now we've we do have some whatever. I've asked you, you know, don't don't do face tattoos, because I just that's that's my you know, you always ask me though, like, what do you think about this? And so if you ever say, Hey, I want, you know, I want your name written on my forehead, I'm gonna say, let's don't. Let's let's skip that.

SPEAKER_02 21:21

Yeah, I can't I'm I'm gonna skip that for sure.

SPEAKER_01 21:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 21:24

I don't really want that.

SPEAKER_01 21:26

But like you said, you didn't want to be unhappy. Um, you know, going back to just even I was talking about church, you know, even even identity there. Even now, my walk as a Christian is not like and and that and and uh I've got out of that trap and I'm so glad that I did, but my walk as a Christian maybe does not look like other people's walk as a Christian. Coming to Christ late, um, I did not have the ideals implanted in you know in me early of what this is wrong, this is right, not because the Bible says. It but because we said so. And I'm not, I'm, I'm trying to not like I I try to be very careful to not like if you've grown up in a denomination where they tell you everything, it's it's this way, kind of because we said so. Um, you know, I didn't grow up with that. And so I also didn't grow up with the the Bible drills and all the different things. And so my walk with um God sometimes is not I I would the for lack of better words, and this may be a good word, is not polished. Um I love that the people that tell the Bible stories, and it sounds like, you know, like it's funny because it's like in today's terms, because I would definitely tell Bible stories that way. I would probably even tell Bible stories like Medea, you know, the the golden arch and um, you know, all those things. If you if you've ever watched that movie, you know what I'm talking about. But, you know, my my prayers do not sound like somebody's prayers who's been raised in church their whole life. And I've learned that that is absolutely okay because I do not feel that pressure anymore to look and be like my sisters in Christ who are different from me. And even in my relationships and how I view the world, I believe it's different, and I think it's a good thing. I embrace that. When um you read something really powerful last night that was on Facebook about um, I don't know if it was a millennial or who it was, you know, there, like, you know, you told me all these things uh about loving everybody and all those things, but you didn't really mean it. It's kind of the basis of it. And we may even could do a whole session on that sometime. But I I am that way. I I've I embraced a side of God of like, okay, y'all have all told me God is good. So now I'm gonna be a Christian and I'm gonna embrace this, and I'm gonna embrace God as my father. And I and He's he says to love everybody, and so I have embraced that when it has not always been popular, probably, for me to embrace red, yellow, black, and white, um, gay, straight, rich, poor, Muslim, Christian, whatever, and I'm not perfect, so I am not like whatever. I'm just saying I didn't have it in my head that it wasn't supposed to be that way. Right. So it's maybe sometimes not always been accepted that that's that that's who I am. But you the here's the thing, that is who I am.

SPEAKER_02 24:12

Right. Well, and I think I think that's it too. Growing up growing up in the dirty south, for sure, uh it really uh it's easy to adopt a way of thinking. It's easy to adopt a way of Christianity. Uh it is easy to do that. You know what I'm saying? And so I like the fact that you're admittedly unpolished. You know, i if if somebody says uh Jesus is so good, you're the type of person that says Jesus has has got riz. You know what I'm saying? Like you you you're gonna break it down and you're you're gonna say it differently. And that's okay. I I think that's okay. You know, I've had to I've had to really reel back some of my standards as far as what uh uh people were t teaching me versus what God really says. Yeah. He does. And and everybody looks at the outward appearance, uh how you how you are, but God really looks at your heart. And I think that God knows that. And I think being yourself, you have to work through just knowing that you've got a unique identity. And you know, some people are uh I think that some people are molded in to be a certain thing. You know, I've seen I've seen or heard people before. Uh I've been groomed my whole life to be a lawyer. My daddy's a lawyer, my granddaddy's a lawyer, and this is just who we are. And then all of a sudden they become a an artist, a starving artist, and their family's like, what is wrong with you? But that's who they are. Yeah. Or they've been groomed to be a doctor, or they've been groomed to be politicians, or they've been groomed to be preachers.

SPEAKER_01 25:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 25:55

And I will say this, just because your daddy's a preacher don't make you a preacher.

SPEAKER_01 25:59

Yeah. That's right.

SPEAKER_02 26:01

And you need to be who you are. And I think that's where we're at, you know, is trying to embrace who we are. And and it's a delicate dance. I'm not here to tell you that we've got it figured out, but I am here to tell you if you're struggling, and and and I've noticed it. Twenty twenty-year-olds really are struggling right now with identity. They're struggling with who they are. And they're lurk looking, I was gonna say lurching, they were looking for anything they can latch on to to try to find something. And and you know, we we all have experienced that, but they they're looking for something. And I would just encourage you, if you're in your twenties and you're in a funk, uh uh it'll come. It'll come. And I think that's it, is that we try to hurry through things sometimes. You know it it the society or life wants to push us, you've got to have it figured out by the time you're 25.

SPEAKER_01 26:51

Right. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 26:52

Well, that is just not true. Becoming who you are is an evolution. And I I think that you have to work through that. You know, there's different personalities that you have to work through. Uh if you're familiar with the disc personality, D I S C, um if anybody can guess what Tiffany is, you get a free skillet cookie. What are you?

SPEAKER_01 27:15

A D and an I.

SPEAKER_02 27:16

A D and I.

SPEAKER_01 27:17

Yeah. But y and that's you know, and that's one thing you that's that's good. You know, when you're trying to figure out, okay, who am I, it's also, you know, how do people see me? Because sometimes we think we're this and we don't know and we can't embrace who we are because we don't really know who we are. But that was probably a a pivot point whenever I did take a disc test because I thought everybody saw me this way and I was actually another way and an ennegram, like all that. Because I think those things, you know, God God did create you uniquely, but I do think that there's a benefit sometimes in those things because you know, if um Pastor Stamps over here is not a D and an I, that's absolutely okay. He may have some S. And so he, you know, whatever S means, that's things that he can say, okay, that's cool. This is what I am. So now I know how to work within this frame better to be who I am, but to be who I am within whatever, you know, an I means that um some of I means we're gonna we're gonna have a good time, we're gonna laugh. Um, you know, I you don't want to sit by me and nothing serious because we're gonna we're gonna find something to that's right. Yeah. But uh D also means when everybody's sitting around don't know what to do, then I'm gonna find a plan for everybody, whether I'm the boss or not. Like y'all gonna keep standing around talking about where we're gonna eat, I'm gonna tell you where we're gonna eat because I don't play that. Like I don't own ain't doing it.

SPEAKER_02 28:35

But look at me, I'm the captain.

SPEAKER_01 28:36

Yeah, because like I I am I can I can follow, but if nobody's gonna lead, then I don't mind to step up. But um and so that's that's fine though, because you know you can say, well, you're just a boss, you're bossy. No, when you find out who you are, like I'm not bossy, like I'm just born to to lead in certain places. And so it's it's important sometimes to do those things if you don't know who you are, so that you can take out those, oh, so I'm not really this or I'm not really that, I'm this, and it's a good thing.

SPEAKER_02 29:00

Right.

SPEAKER_01 29:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 29:01

And I think that's it. I think the crux of this as we get ready to close here, you really have to discover who you are. And I'll say this, that you really have to just quit worrying about what everybody else thinks. Right. Because mama and daddy are gonna say one thing, your brothers and sisters will say something else, people at church is gonna say something else, uh Facebook will tell you something else. And the truth is is none of that really matters because God created you with a unique identity and you have to find what that is and you have to embrace it. Right. It it's one thing to find it, it's another thing to embrace it. And that's where we are at this point in our life at fifty-two and fifty, we're really learning to embrace who we are. Yeah. And it and and and y it's not popular sometimes. You know, it is not popular. You know, you talked about b even beliefs in church and things like that. Some of these things that that we feel and we see and we we believe that God has called us to, they're just different. And and we have to embrace that and love on the people that God puts in front of us.

SPEAKER_01 30:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 30:02

And be who we are and and be okay with that. Because I'll tell you this. I was unhappy for so long, but I'm not unhappy anymore. I have days like anybody else has days that I struggle or I ha or have have a down day, but I'm not unhappy. I don't wake up hating myself. I don't wake up hating where I'm at. And uh I'm cool. Like I'm I'm happy. If you don't like my tattoos, I don't care. My wife likes them. She thinks they're cool as long as I don't get on my forehead. But but I I don't care. You know? God's happy with me. God loves me. God put me in in a unique identity and I'm starting to embrace that even more and more. I mean, here, twenty years ago, we're not sitting in front of you doing a podcast. We're not talking about our life. Twenty years ago, we're not doing some of the things we did. But again, it's breaking out of uh what you've been modeled to be, or maybe breaking out of what you the role you've been trying to play.

unknown 30:56

Right.

SPEAKER_02 30:56

So any any parting words from you?

SPEAKER_01 30:59

No, I think that's okay. I think everything we I mean, I think that's that's some good stuff. It is okay to be a hurricane in a room full of sunshine. That's right. It's okay to be sunshine in a quiet wind in a room full of hurricanes. It's okay. Be who God wanted you to be because he does love you. He created you to be who you wanted to be. I mean, to be who he wanted you to be. So he loves you. He loves you just like that.

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That's right. Everything that you think is weird or quirky, everything that maybe somebody's told you is not normal. God loves that. Right. And God created that. So embrace the heck out of it and enjoy your life. Thank you so much for listening today. We do want to encourage you to be who you are. And one way you can do that is to get in the flow of life. Find people who are going the way you want to go, hop in there with them and flow. Thank you for listening.